CONSTIPATION IN TODDLERS
Constipation is a very common concern among the moms of toddlers. Some of the common causes of constipation in toddlers are toilet anxiety, dehydration and diet. Swati’s two and half your old child has the problem and she came to SOS moms for their advice on the same. Let’s take a look at what our SOS moms have to say to Swati.
Moms Noopur Agarwal, Sowjanaya Kumar, Tanuja Karunakar, Anita Rankar, Shaveta Rahajan, Ritu Mishra Tripathi Sahrvani Aneel, Leena Parikh, Ameena Sayeed, Deepshikha Das, Sakshi Batra, Tanushree Ganguli and Sayonee Mishra all agree that Swati’s little one should be given ripe bananas and papaya in different forms to ease his problem. Both banana and papaya are rich in fibre and can help with constipation. These two fruits can also be given in the form of milk shakes, juice and any other form to make them seem less boring to your active bub.
Also moms like Tanushree Ganguli, Jyoti Kapil, Mridula Shirwali, agree that spinach and greens will help Swati’s child to a great extent.
Moms Sneha Satam, Sathya Ramu, Srividya Mushunuru suggest Swati to feed that the child should be fed black raisins soaked in water every morning. Chetana Suvarana Ganatara suggests that a porridge made of oats and prunes (packed with fibre) will help. Shanti Gupta says dried figs soaked in water overnight will also work wonders.
Preeti Khanna and Manasi Joshi suggest that the little one should be given milk with two drops of ghee in it. Milk may cause constipation but milk with ghee has a reverse impact. Sweta Bharadwaj, Sonia Sonu pipe in with their suggestion of feeding the tot with curd regularly.
Diana Samuel says, “Try 1/2 tsp honey in 1/2 tsp warm water on empty stomach in the morning. It worked for my child when she had severe constipation. Note: water must be warm not too hot nor cold. Give him lots of warm water throughout the day. Hope it might help.” Harsha Rajiv suggests, “ Water intake should be increased. Fruit juice, fresh fruits in puree form is also effective. Fibrous food like palak and other greens in soup can be given. Also Palak kichdi, carrot soup, carrot milkshake etc work. Do include greens in your baby’s diet at least once a week.
Other SOS moms also agree that Swati’s little one should be given warm water throughout the day in equal intervals. Also the child should be made to sit on his potty seat everyday even if he doesn’t pass stool to build a habit. Constipation can be easily resolved with a few key changes in diet and momma’s care of course!
We thank all the SOS moms who rushed in to aid Swati with her problem:
Tanushree Ganguli, Jyoti Kapil, Mridula Shirwali, Noopur Agarwal, Sowjanaya Kumar, Tanuja Karunakar, Anita Rankar, Shaveta Rahajan, Ritu Mishra Tripathi, Sahrvani Aneel, Leena Parikh, Ameena Sayeed, Deepshikha Das, Sakshi Batra, Tanushree Ganguli and Sayonee Mishra, Sneha Satam, Sathya Ramu, Srividya Mushunuru, Harsha Rajiv, Diana Samuel, Pratibha Gautam, Swati Agarwal, Shama Mittal, Nausheen Sharieff, Amrita Singh, Sarika Singh, Dia Bijlani, Namrata Mandowara, Chetna Ganatara, Bindiya Yadav, Sakshi Batra, Simpy Jalan and Reema Verma.
DIY Father’s Day Gift Ideas
(*all pics courtesy Pinterest and Google Images, FirstCry holds no right to ownership of the same)
Mums, it’s almost here…..Father’s Day! So it’s on the 16th of June this 2013.
There’s a lot of options out there that you can pick up at the stores, but what’s more fun is creating something for dad along with your little one. We loved these ideas online!
Trust us, these handmade DIY things are what daddy will cherish most.
Here are the top 10 DIY ideas we loved….. Continue reading →
International Celeb Dads with Babies
So moms and dads,
Here are a few more cherished pics of some big international names along with their kids….
Real Mommy Stories: Vidhi Panjwani and Her Son Mahaksh
Seeing her you wouldn’t believe she is a mum. Slim, sweet and full of life, 33-year-old Vidhi Panjwani is working in the highly busy and stressful position of a full-time mom, being around 24*7 for her 6-year-old son Mahaksh.
But bringing in her darling little one to this world wasn’t easy. “There were spottings and I was on bed rest for 4 months. Those 4 months were some of the toughest months of my life. Forget getting up and walking, I was not even allowed to sit up for the first 4 months! And the only companions I had the whole day was the ceiling or the TV, of which I had soon tired. But what that period of bed-rest also did was to show me the immense care and love my husband has for me. Throughout those difficult months my husband was always by my side. So much so that even when I had hunger pangs in the middle of the night, he would go to the kitchen with my mother-in-law and help make aaloo paranthas for me. Tell me, what more could I have asked for?”
Every mother has a special relationship with her little one and Vidhi is no different. Though each day is as precious as the previous, the one thing she will always remember each day of her life is the feeling she had on seeing her baby for the first time.
“I am a very sleep-happy person, I can sleep anywhere and anytime. But surprisingly, after my son was born, I felt as if all the sleep has gone from my eyes forever. I was so excited and so happy that the only feeling I had was being too full of energy and wanting to be with my son all the time. My husband and all my relatives too were surprised at the sudden change in me, but somehow, as if by miracle, all the exhaustion and the tiredness of the delivery had gone, and instead, all that was there was the beautiful face of my son and my love flowing for him. I wanted to hold him in my arms and be like that forever. It is the most amazing experience of my life, something that I can’t describe in words.”
Real Mommy Stories: Mom Shweta Sharma and Son Kabir
26-year-old Shweta Sharma has a little baby boy Kabir, who is just one-n-a-half years old.
“I was always very career-oriented and wanted to give my profession my best” says Shweta, who is on a busy schedule in her work in the marketing field. “I wanted to do well in life on my own” she says with a proud smile. “But nothing could come even close to the joy that I experienced once my son was born” she adds with a smile.
“Since I am working, I have to leave the house by 09:00 each morning and only come home after 07:00 in the evening. So the whole day my son is with the nanny and also his dadi (paternal grandmother). But the moment I reach home you should see his expression. Its a million-dollar expression” she says with a touch of emotion. “He gets so excited to see me that he wants to laugh, to cry, to play, all at the same time. I feel really touched when I see that my little bachcha understands his mother is working, so he wants to do everything with his mamma whenever she is home.”
Shweta wants to spend every possible time with her little one, but there are many other things that also need her attention. Thankfully, with the support of an understanding partner and a supportive family, she is at least assured of the fact that while she is at work, there is someone who is making sure her little boy is looked after. And when she is back home, all her time is exclusively for her little one.
Real Mommy Stories: Mom Jyostna Kanaal Tandaan and Sons Neel and Lakshya
Stylish, smart, attractive and possessing a fabulous sense of dressing and designing, this 36-year-old former cabin-crew is the proud mother to six-year-old Neel and 02-year-old Lakshya.
Meet Jyosna Kanal Tandaan, a self-confessed party animal, a lady who knows how to entertain friends, at the same time playing loving wife and caring mommy to her super-charged sons.
A high-flier and a party animal, not the traits you would really associate with a mommy. “Becoming a mother has changed everything. My lifestyle, my behaviour, my attitude towards life, all have undergone a drastic change. Earlier I would head out to party at every given opportunity. My friends were my world. I was bursting with too much energy, always hyper, a little immature and irresponsible at times. Being a mother has changed all that, and only for the better. Now my life revolves around my sons, all else is secondary. Whatever I do, I first think how my sons will react to it. All my decisions and choices are now governed by what suits my sons best. I have become much more mature and calm as a person and can handle situations in a much more level-headed way than before.”
Jyosna gave up her lucrative career and decided to be a stay-at-home mom. And the one image that will always remain in her heart is the image of her little one when she was just three months into her pregnancy. “The doctor had advised me a sonography. Till that time I was very unsure of how things would be, my full maternal instincts had not developed yet. The entire process was still very overwhelming for me.” But when she saw the image of her little one, nestled inside her, growing slowly each day, with each passing moment, it was too much for this emotional girl. “I knew right then that I was looking at my world” she says, emotions clouding her words.
Medical Evidence Suggests Mothers Indeed Do Know Best: The Story of Mom Debbie and Daughter Bethany
We found this on the web:
Debbie Flowers can recall clearly the moment she started to fear her daughter Bethany’s breathing difficulties were more than ‘just asthma’.
The ten-year-old was diagnosed with the condition after coming back from a Girl Guide weekend with a wheezing chest. At first Bethany — a ‘happy-go-lucky and healthy child’ — didn’t seem bothered by her symptoms, says Debbie.
The doctor said it was asthma and prescribed an inhaler and medication — she also sent the family to a specialist for Bethany’s breathing to be checked. ‘But the doctors said her breathing was fine, so we went home. ‘I thought “job done”,’ recalls Debbie, a 43-year-old mother of three.
But two days later, with no sign of the wheezing subsiding, Debbie took her daughter back to the doctors. This time, there was less of a welcome. ‘None of the doctors actually said I was a paranoid, over-anxious mother but that was what their faces were saying. They told me stress was causing the asthma to persist. ‘The implication was that if we all just calmed down, Bethany would recover.’
The following day, she watched her daughter as she moved about, her breath rasping loudly. ‘Suddenly the alarm bells were ringing,’ says Debbie. ‘I just knew there was something wrong. Bethany would walk to the bathroom and could hardly breathe. And the difficulty she had was in breathing out — not breathing in, as normally happens with asthma. Sometimes she simply couldn’t empty her lungs.’
It was a crucial observation.
Bethany had a two-centimetre tumour lodged in her windpipe that was periodically blocking her airways as she breathed out.
Debbie believes her instinct as a mother kicked in at that point.
Two weeks after her first symptoms Bethany was finally admitted to hospital for observation as doctors reluctantly agreed the breathing was not typical of asthma. But it was too late. That evening, Bethany suffered respiratory failure, causing her to fall down in the hospital shower. She was taken back to bed in a wheelchair and left to sleep that night. But by the next morning, the doctors started treating her as a medical emergency. It soon became clear the child’s lungs were filling up with carbon dioxide that could not be expelled.
‘She died in an ambulance ten minutes into a journey to another hospital where the plan was to pump out her lungs,’ Debbie recalls quietly. ‘But she didn’t have a chance.’ The movement of being shifted about disturbed the tumour, causing a fatal cardiac arrest.
‘I was holding her hand and the last thing she asked was if she was going to die.’
Whether her life could have been saved is difficult to say.
Debbie is not angered by the failure to spot the rare cancer, however. For her the doctors’ mistake lies in their refusal to take her anxiety seriously and therefore investigate further. ‘I’ve been racked with guilt that I didn’t do more to keep Bethy alive. Perhaps I should have screamed and shouted or got myself arrested — anything to get them to listen to the one person in the world who knows the child inside out and back to front, and knew that something was seriously wrong,’ she says.
‘We firmly believe parents know their children best and if they are unsatisfied with the service, they should seek a second opinion,’ said one of the officers handling the case. What little research there is suggests mothers do indeed know best.
‘Many mothers of very sick babies or children seem to have a sixth sense of danger often without even knowing why they are so worried,’ says Dr Cynthia McVey, a psychologist specialising in child health at Glasgow Caledonian University. ‘Evidence shows very clearly these feelings may be based on subtle, almost imperceptible, changes in the way the child is crying or holding its body or indeed breathing, something that may seem quite trivial or unobservable by the doctor,’ she says.
My Son, I Love You Too: Moving Tale Of Parent and Child
As seen on the web:
‘I ran into a stranger as he passed by, “Oh excuse me please,” was my reply.
He said, “Please excuse me too.’ We went on our way saying good-bye.
Later that day, cooking the evening meal, my son stood beside me very still.
As I turned, I nearly knocked him down. “Move out of the way,” I said with a frown.
He walked away, his little heart broken. I didn’t realize how harshly I’d spoken.
I looked on the kitchen floor, and found some flowers there by the door.
My heart said – Those are the flowers he brought for you.
He picked them himself: pink, yellow and blue.
He stood very quietly not to spoil the surprise, and you never saw the tears that filled his little eyes.
By this time, I felt very small, and now my tears began to fall.
I quietly went and knelt by his bed, “Wake up, little one, wake up,” I said.
“Are these the flowers you picked for me?”
He smiled, “I found ’em, out by the tree.
I picked ’em because they’re pretty like you. I knew you’d like ’em, especially the blue.”
I said, “Son, I’m very sorry for the way I acted today; I shouldn’t have yelled at you that way.”
He said, “Oh, Mom, that’s okay. I love you anyway.”
I said, “Son, I love you too, and I do like the flowers, especially the blue.”
Mum Spends 3 Years Sitting Outside Son’s School To Cure His Phobia:HeartWarming Mother-Son Story
We found this story of courage, support and positive thinking on the web:
Mom Amanda Egan (who is also a writer) and husband chose a school in South London for their son that was known for its caring environment. Her son Ben, who was then 11, seemed a little anxious on his first day, but the parents didn’t think it was anything abnormal. But next week when she walked with her son to his class, a practice that is allowed internationally to help children get used to a big school, her son was struck with panic.
‘I can’t do it,’ he said, the fear on his face. The mother assured him that everything would be fine, nudged him into class, waved and turned away. ‘It wasn’t until I reached my car that he caught up with me. Tears were streaming down his face and he was gasping for breath. I had never seen him like that. ‘I can’t stay there,’ he shouted. ‘I just can’t!’ recalls the mother.
The teacher, who was very understanding, and Ben’s mother both tried to calm him, but as he started complaining of headache and sickness, she decided to take him home. ‘My husband, who is very laid-back and quite the reverse of me, assured me it was nothing to worry about,’ says Amanda.
But the next morning, the same panic happened, and the next and the next, and soon Amanda was worried. Both the parents tried talking to Ben, but nothing was helping. Says Amanda – ‘As any parent who has ever dealt with this condition knows, when it first hits you have absolutely no idea what you’re dealing with. In fact, you think the very things that others have asked. Is he playing up? Am I spoiling him? And you try everything – from confiscating his PlayStation to bribing him with new games or breaking down in tears yourself. After two weeks, we were referred to the school counsellor. I saw the counsellor on my own at first and straight away she mentioned the words ‘school phobia’.
‘Once he was diagnosed, it was a question of encouraging him to take baby steps: enter the form room, sit through a full lesson, stay for a half-day, then a full day. Meanwhile, I remained in the background – for the first term this meant sitting outside his classroom reading. From then on, I could sit in the car outside.’ Mom Amanda carried on her dog-minding business from there, booking pets in with various minders on the phone. She managed not only to be a full-on mom to her son, but also kept her working schedule on, with help and support from her husband.
Progress was slow and there were many setbacks. Sometimes Ben would curl into a ball and cry for an hour before even daring to walk through the school gates. I can’t tell you how helpless you feel witnessing something like this. For his entire first year, Ben only ever attended school for half the day – during which time he would visit me after every lesson. At lunch, I would drive him home, where I insisted he continue reading or working until the end of the school day. Sometimes other mums knocked on the car window: ‘Why don’t you just tell him you’re going home and he has to stay here.’ If only it was that easy!’
Of course there were times when I blamed myself – was this a result of my parenting skills? I hoped the problem would evaporate over the summer holiday, but the day before his second year began, Ben burst into tears again. This is when I started staying in the car for the entire school day – Ben no longer returned home at lunch but continued to come and see me after every single lesson. I developed a routine, bringing a packed lunch and chick-lit. I got through a book a day. The school allowed me to use the staff loos.
I stayed in position outside the school throughout his third year, but in his fourth, in 2009, the counsellor drew up a plan to gradually move him towards independence. For the first few weeks, Ben visited me only at morning break-time. Then we limited it to only once or twice in the afternoon. And, in January 2010, Ben spent his first day at school without me there. We kept in contact by text.
There were times, I must admit, when I felt a bit sorry for myself. Particularly when rain pelted down on the roof or when it was so hot even winding down the windows didn’t help. This is what happens when you spend three years cooped up in a car from 8.30am until 4pm each day. And six years on, it has paid dividends: not only is Ben now a committed student, but I used all that spare time to write a novel. Of course, I’ve grown used to people’s ridicule over the years. ‘Any child would want to be diagnosed with school phobia!’ is a common response. And there were those who accused me of making it worse by indulging his fears. But school phobia is scary and crippling and very real, as only those who have had panic attacks can tell you. And it strikes without warning. It sounds extreme, but I kept my side of the bargain because, well, that’s what mothers do, isn’t it?
Ben, now 17, has put those dark days behind him. Despite his limited time in class, he is now studying for A-levels in French, graphic design and business studies. He’s also a member of a band and performs in school assemblies and fairs – something we never could have imagined a couple of years ago. He jokingly refers to his phobia as his ‘mad phase’.
Ben, now 17, with mum Amanda Egan.
(story courtesy Daily Mail UK)
A Few Things To Remember This Winter…
It’s winters….that time of the year when our little ones are again so prone to those bouts of cough and cold and as parents you are running around with that dreaded thermometer in hand, calling up the doc, fixing an appointment, and trying desperately to make the poor little ones drink the medicines….
Sometimes, winters approach so suddenly that we dont really get the chance to keep our woolens in the sun. Of course we all are quite restrained on time these days. What with office and home and many more added responsibilities, it is not always possible to take out time and remember to do each and every chore. If you did not really get the chance to sun-out your woolens before use this winter, try and send it to a good dry-cleaner. Sometimes, children develop allergies, especially rashes and cough and cold from these same woolens that have been in storage for most of the past year.
This winter, let honey be your child’s best friend (not for infants though, and if your baby has had any prior allergies or reaction to honey, make sure you check with the doctor first). A little honey in milk, instead of sugar, will help your child stay away from the regular cough and cold. Also, why not add just the tiniest pinch of ground turmeric in your baby’s milk? Or even jaggery? Not only are these rich sources of nutrition for your little one, they will also help your baby fight the virus.
Green leafy vegetables are back with the season..so let your child enjoy these…of course make sure that you clean them properly before feeding your child. Clean and boil these greens in salt water and then mash it (if your child is too small) or cut into fine pieces and mix in the flour you use for your daily roti and parantha. Use the boiled water of the leaves to make dals or curries. The best part about these leaves are that, if you dont have the time to do this each day, just boil them and keep them in the fridge…once boiled, they can be easily stored for a week to ten days.
Also, make ample use of the lovely vegetables in the market, carrot, beetroot and so many other nourishing foods. Make vegetable soups/stews at home, make vegetable porridge, make custard with fruits….so many natural things for our little ones just waiting for us to bring back home.
Of course it is not always possible to keep cough and cold at bay. But lets try and go a little more natural this season….
Mum Joanna Biggs Talks About Why She Thinks Her Hubby Is The Best Daddy…
You have loved him too much to spend the rest of your life with him. You have shared fun moments, you have had your pillow fights, you have shared the best experience of your life together – becoming a parent……
At FirstCry, we want to give a ALL you amazing mums a chance to nominate your spouse as the Best Daddy….you know he is the best partner you could have asked for…now tell us why you think he is THE BEST Daddy Ever!!!
Mum Joanna Biggs from England (who has now moved to New Delhi) tells us why she feels her hubby Maghin, is the BEST DADDY EVER….
My baby daughter Cary’s arrival has given me sooooo many Carys-and-her-daddy moments, but this picture, to me, says it all.
After a first, unhappy dip in the cold water off the coast of England, what better than to run to daddy for comfort and a cuddle?
Joanna
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Joanna Biggs
Mum to 16-month-old Carys”
What a lovely picture….check out Baby Carys’s look, the calm on being caressed by daddy, resting her head on her papa’s shoulder and knowing that all will be fine… Hats off to Maghin, the daddy nominated as the BEST DADDY by loving wife Joanna…
Here’s wishing the lovely family all the very best in life forever….
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Beautiful Lines On What It Is To Be A Parent
Have you ever come across lines in a book that you may be reading, that beautifully show what it is to be a parent?
We came across these beautiful lines in the book ‘Eat Pray And Love’ by Elizabeth Gilbert. Its not a parenting book at all, nor in any way is it related to parents or children. But these beautiful lines describe the mother-child relationship really well. Just sharing them here:
“I feel about … the way a new mother feels about her impossible, colicky, restless newborn baby – I just don’t care what it puts me through. Because I adore it. Because it’s mine. Because it looks exactly like me. It can barf all over me if it wants to – I just don’t care.”
Discipling Yourself Before Disciplining Baby
Having an indisciplined child can be a real problem, one that poses the threat of embarassment for you, while making your child the subject of ridicule and potential rejection by other kids and parents. There may be instances where your child may be conveniently left out of play dates and birthdays, when you see a decrease in the number of friends coming home to play with your child, while instances of your baby being invited to friends’ house goes down visibly. You may reach the stage of almost giving up, of talking sternly to your child, and sometimes, even resorting to means of punishment and hitting. But once you sit down and actually think about it – who is to blame for this situation? Is it really your child, or is it you, the parent, who failed to inculcate the basics of discipline and manners in the little one?
Ensuring your little one turns out into a well-disciplined and well-grounded toddler and child, and later a good human being, is completely the responsibility of the guardian. Disciplining a child is a really simple task, and the basics can begin very early, much before your baby will learn to speak. A child will always emulate an adult, so it is really important that before you set yourself to discipline your child, you implement the same in your own behaviour and routine.
You may ask your little one to follow a certain pattern, to behave a certain way, but if you become an example of the opposite, the same will reflect in your little one’s attitude. As parents, we have the paramount responsibility of being the idol the child will look upto, the person whose behaviour and mannerisms the child will emulate, so our language, our behaviour and all our dealings in everyday life should be such that can provide the ideal example to our baby.
In India, where the concept of joint families is still alive in some households, it is especially difficult to discipline a child, since the safety zone to escape punishment is always close at hand. It is imperative that all adults of the household are tuned to the ways of bringing up a child – if each one has a different perspective and a different method of discipline and behaviour, a child will invariably end up being confused, thus losing out on important learning methods. In such a scenario, it is important that all adults discuss the matter, but make sure the child is not present while such matters are being talked about. In a nuclear family, both the parents need to have a ‘pre-decided’ agreement on how to discipline baby and what is allowed and what is crossing the limit.
Moulding your child into the person you want her/him to be is completely in your hands, so make sure you create the right ambience and the right mix of discipline and love to help your child grow up into a good human being. And remember to keep those hugs and kisses in plentiful – you want to discipline your child, yes, but one message that you always want to give out to your child is, that no matter what, mamma and papa will always love you.
Looking At Things From Your Child’s Eyes
Having a little one in the house is like forever being in an environment of learning and growth. As adults, we tend to take so many things for granted, its not even funny when you actually sit down and think about it.
My little one and I are a team, we talk and chat a lot, we explore things, and this bonding and constant discussion about things around her is not only restricted to me. As parents, both me and my husband have made a conscious effort to spend as much time as possible with her, and to let her develop a sense of curiosity and questioning.
So it’s not surprising for us when she speaks in perfect grammatical formations, or when she uses really big words for her now five years of age (she’s been using words like universe, environment, astronaut, kindness from age 3). But sometimes, it does get quite tough to answer her questions, the millions that keep circling in her tiny head.
I have decided to make a list of all these questions.
Nothing special, just a small notebook with all these questions that she will have over the years, and I will show these to her when she grows up. I hope she will find it amusing and smile at the memories of her when she ‘was’ small. Oh, can’t imagine a day when I will use the ‘small’ word for her in the past tense…that’s just the mommy in me I guess !!
As of now, these are the special questions of hers that I felt deserve a special jotting down in the notebook:
Q1. How many spikes does a hedgehog have?
Q2. Why do all living things feel thirsty?
Q3. Why do owls sleep in the day and not in the night? Why can’t I sleep in the day and play in the night too?
Q4. Why does a witch sit on a broom and fly?
Q5. Why doesn’t the snow fall on my house? Why does it fall only on mountains and hills? If I can see the hill from my window, why can’t the snow come here in my house also?
Q6. Why do I have to wear a uniform to school? Why can’t I wear my favourite frock?
Q7. Why do papas not have long hair? Why do only mammas have long hair?
Q8. The stars don’t get bored living only in the sky all the time?
These are the ‘few’ of her questions that I thought I should share here. Of course if you have already answered these and are aware of the many more that will come up in the list soon, please do send me a comment here with the Q&As!!!!
I’m having quite a time figuring out the answers. And like I said, everyday is a learning phase. While I had taken these things for granted till now, I do have a different way of thinking about things now, thanks to my little one.
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